The family of a man murdered by his girlfriend urged other men to come forward if they are suffering from domestic violence.
Emma Walsh was jailed for life with a minimum term of 18 years for the murder of her partner Gary Morgan. Walsh knifed the 36-year-old to death at her home on Lavan Close in Everton on the evening of April 10 this year.
On Friday last week, she was unanimously convicted of murder by a jury after only one hour and 37 minutes of deliberations. The 31-year-old was sentenced today at Liverpool Crown Court, where she sat turned away from the public gallery at all times during the hearing.
There’s a lot more to this in the broader sense. Yes, the initial surprise is the 18 years, rather than the usual 3 months when it’s female, or released on compassionate grounds because it has womanly bits and gushes tears … though the ‘womanly bits’ are not a given these days.
I plead guilty to enabling such behaviour in my personal case. She was physical in every way, positively I mean, but so was I and during this attack or that by her, five percent of the time, the other ninety-five percent happy or sullen, a full nelson usually calmed things after a while. Obviously I should have cut all ties and gone my own way but I didn’t and any male inside a female’s orbit knows why. In fact, in a way, it was quite cute and she never threw crockery, to her credit, it was always direct.
Most of the time though, I’d just walk out, literally, for twenty minutes (don’t sleep in the subway, darling … Petulia knew the game) … mainly so I would not overdo it and once when I got back, the place was trashed in the sense that she’d carefully placed piles of books and papers creatively around on the rug, while she went to her mother’s for the night. And it was her mother too. The physical clinch was usually the better way.
Right, so what to make of female behaviour? Well, we could start with estrogen, then touch on the old chivalry and it is relevant because I don’t know a man who has physically got stuck into a woman … I mean, that would be cowardly, wouldn’t it, one just didn’t, one restrained her and soothed with words … different matter though with another male and most males I knew … well we just didn’t go physical either, unlike meatheads, we kept a respectful physical distance and just had a laugh about whatever. What’s the point of M.A.D.? Lunacy.
And there are our double standards, I quite admit it. In my mind, the gals have their strengths, very real strengths, we have ours, the rest is common to both. To my mind, this stabbed man in this tale was a bit wimpy, truth be told and that’s just red rag to a female bull in her case, as this Walsh has now discovered the consequences of.
Treat men and women alike? In the eyes of the law, yes, plus rich and poor, indigenous and invader. But on a one-to-one level … come on … you know very well what she radiates, you know her spell, and any gal uses such as one of her weapons. Why not?
Which does not answer the question of consequences of actions in general between any two parties. There must be fair, simply stated laws, no-discretion consequences in sentencing, everyone in the society knowing what will happen. Plus evenhanded judges, male or female.
Ah, but how to achieve that?
Also of interest:
A simple description of (the vast majority) women is “have your cake and eat it”, they always, and in all things, want it both ways. Equality – just with special extras for them, they’re stronger and all around better – but weaker and victims when it’s convenient, etc.
ReplyDeleteHaving worked in A&E for many years I can tell you all (barring the rarest of examples, and even then a majority male victims) “domestic violence” is ‘mutual’. Every single instance of a woman attending with DV injuries, where the man was always arrested as the sole guilty party, was as violent and abusive to the man (and often way more so, and always ‘the instigator’) than he was to her (and clearly, as claimed and automatically dismissed, a defensive reaction from him most of the time).
Another fact? Whilst women attend with bruises and the occasional fracture, the male victims attended with stab wounds, major burns, poisoning, or just went straight to the morgue. Men, even that small subset of violent Richards (women seem so attracted to), limit their violence, no woman ever does (why should they when they are perpetual victims, excused, lauded and even rewarded for acting how, if a man, they would be vilified and punished). [I’ve witnessed single female police officers ‘restrain’ violent criminals that it took four male officers to, because even most of the vilest scum can’t overcome their biological and cultural conditioning to ‘not’ harm women, even in extremis].
The old joke of “A woman picks a man for who, and what, he is, hoping to change him. A man picks a woman, hoping she wont change” is all too true, yet completely false, because no matter what a man does, says, or becomes the woman will always find some excuse to blame him for her choices or behaviour.
Allowing women any power (and let’s be honest the entire system is rigged to give any woman power over any man she chooses, anytime, anywhere) is a recipe for disaster, but in a relationship it’s catastrophic (and all too often lethal). Biologically and culturally, most men view those ‘in their power’ (like subalterns) to be protected and provided for, their wants and wishes catered to, or at least considered, without threatening their own status. Women, view them as (like children) inferiors, to be controlled, and any disagreement as an all too real threat to them, and they all too often act accordingly.
I’ve said before that the diagnosis of malignant narcissists is massively male biased … because almost every woman fits the criteria to a tee (seriously, look at them and see if you can find a single woman you know who doesn’t). Some men are described, and locked up, as dangerously unstable and a threat, for … acting like most women do. The “Hot/Crazy Matrix” is as close to true as makes no difference.
Rationalising, and excusing, violent behaviour by women (that you wouldn't in exactly the same circumstances excuse men) is a recipe for … what we see now. Limiting violence against women made sense when women were culturally unlikely to act so, now … it’s a suicide pact.
[Chivalry was a bilateral agreement. Men would act respectfully, provide for and protect women who … only noticed, dated, had sex with and married men who did. It wasn’t men gave up on chivalry, women resented the reciprocity and limitations and murdered it. Now, as per usual, they whine and demand the same provisions/protections, but without even considering accepting those limitations and costs. SSDD].
The truth is I don’t see this ever being returned to sanity short of a complete (and now probably inevitable) total collapse (that will suddenly remind both men and women of reality – The Gods of the Copy-book Headings do that you know, periodically). Historically, every ‘great’ civilisation (or just vaguely civilised for that matter) only survived as long as women were excluded from positions of power. Every one that changed that … died (in fire and blood). Coming to a street, city, country near you soon!