The biological father

Father's Day in the U.S., possibly other places too.

It's a sad state of affairs that we can grab stats from 'studies' to support anything.  Dearieme, avid blog contributor, pointed out, about covid actually:

"From April 2020 through at least the end of 2021, Americans died from non-Covid causes at an average annual rate 97,000 in excess of previous trends." That's an odd time period to choose because the results are going to muddle together the results of Long Lockdown and Long Vaxx.

And that was mild ... when we get onto climate change stats, these chaps here and here, for example [use the search box] point out the sheer falsification or at least massaging of stats to 'prove' a point.  

Briggsy explains how to manipulate stats.

This site below is Catholic and so you'd expect this:

https://www.lifesitenews.com/opinion/fathers-day-reminds-us-of-the-vital-role-dads-play-in-our-families-and-society/

According to the Child and Family Research Partnership at the University of Texas:

Children who grow up with involved fathers are: 39% more likely to earn mostly As in school, 45% less likely to repeat a grade, 60% less likely to be suspended or expelled from school, twice as likely to go to college and find stable employment after high school, 75% less likely to have a teen birth, and 80% less likely to spend time in jail.

Focus on the Family states: “In an analysis of over 100 studies on parent-child relationships, it was found that having a loving and nurturing father was as important for a child’s happiness, well-being, and social and academic success as having a loving and nurturing mother.”

This site below though, top ranked on Google, you'd expect to be anti-father and yet it allows this through:

https://childpsychotherapy.org.uk/resources-families/understanding-childhood/fathers-understanding-vital-role-fathers-father-figures

The best start fathers and mothers can give their children is to create a happy atmosphere at home. The way to do this is for parents to sort out and agree arrangements between themselves. This applies to all sorts of issues such as looking after the baby, changing nappies or sleeping in the parents’ bed.

Children, including very young infants, are very sensitive to the emotional atmosphere around them. If things are fraught between the parents – maybe about money worries or other stresses, not just about their relationship – children will react.

This may show up directly or in other ways, such as sleep difficulties, tantrums or other behaviour problems.

I did search for the blurring of the biological and the 'male brought in to service mama and be substitute dad' in that last one but whilst looking for that [as someone involved years ago], I was sure there had to be something Woke in the article [excuse my cynicism] to see it blue-ticked and there it was ... it started talking acceptingly about 'two dad' families, which is utter bollox trying to equate that with a father-mother family.

Single mothers are very quick to bring out the artillery of pointing to how wonderfully stable things are with substitute dad and while it's definitely a massive help for a calm, loving male to female adult atmosphere in the home, it is not the same thing and I can speak on that myself, no matter how much he fills the role.  This is particularly so where girl children are involved.

As for a rotating list of males brought in to service mama, on the basis that it hardly matters, the least said the better.  Plus I'm not engaging on the abomination of single-sex pretend parents and the damage that does in the longterm.

All of which begs the question, the elephant in the room ... why was the father abusive to the mother anyway?  What did the mother do to create this herself?  Chas and Dave have a view on it but it's more.  

There was a young mother at a railway station who got talking to me and she was visiting the father in prison.  Regularly.  I said nothing about bad-boy syndrome but there does exist such a thing ... the initial choice of the to-be mother, often out of wedlock.

And then of course the professional benefits receiver, the CSA or equivalent ... and so on. Not even going to start on the professional benefits and IVF artist. Isn't govt support wunnerful?

I was reading an article where a woman was going on about how bad the father was ... a long list of faults ... and I wanted to ask her ... why the hell did you marry him in the first place then?  The answer was, before I could even ask it ... she never married him.

There's the breakdown of the Christian paradigm across the west to consider.  I have a question - why was she not well enough brought up in the first place to play the field and refrain from nooky until she, and family, were reasonably sure it was workable, then marry in a sanctified way, then have children with four grandparent support?  You know ... the old-fashioned way?

Yes, perhaps I am in cloud cuckoo land after all.  Or am I?

[Notes: I wrote that post both as biological and 'brought in' father at different stages and no, I'll not expound on those sorry tales.]